Dr. Tom McCauley Virginia was one of the thriftiest yet most generous people I've ever known. In her personal life, she literally saved everything, an influence from her poorer, simpler childhood. When she came to my office, she would wait out in the waiting room along with everyone else for an hour or more and never once complained. I'm frankly surprised now when I see everything with her name on it; it doesn't fit with the Virginia I knew. It's not her. She made a distinction between her private self and what she did publicly. Virginia had a lot of character from her rock-solid upbringing. She was not a controller and never tried to lead anybody else's life. She had a tremendous devotion to her parents. Virginia was a woman who lived in many generations; that is, she was old-fashioned in many ways: she loved music from the '20s and '30s, was a friend of Wayne King (the saxophonist), had Victorian ideas, and the decor in her home was sort of French Versailles. She just wasn't locked into any particular era. Virginia Piper was a complex woman. She was required each year to give away a certain amount of money, and she was as dedicated to her profession as I am to mine, and by God, she was going to do it better than anyone else. She would not be happy to be called rich. She didn't see herself as rich. She was a steward of Paul's money; that was her job. She was honest and had a strong radar for dishonesty. I liked Virginia a lot. Christina Critchfield-Huber Virginia deferred her own needs for the needs of others. I know she spent hours and hours a day at her desk, either in correspondence or on the phone. She was a phenomenal writer, one of those people who automatically make you feel like you are the most important person in the world. At her desk, she had a bajillion thank-you notes from all the young people she put through college or medical school. They'd correspond with her throughout their lives, send pictures of their children, etc. I really doubt she shared or catalogued all the young people she helped in her lifetime. That's how Gin most liked to give,silently. Off the public record. I think she might be uncomfortable to see her name now. I believe she preferred the quiet gift of compassion for others as well as for the community. She preferred the invisible gift. Father Frank Fernandez In her house, the cats all slept on the dining room table next to a big glass Steuben cat. Her office was small and personal, but it was sacrosanct, that office. She did all her work there, but we were always in the kitchen. That was her place; she loved it there. I was much more comfortable with her as a person than as a priest. We were just good, close friends. Bishop O'Brien was really the official priest in her life. The last five years her life changed dramatically because of her health, and she began to speak of her grandmother and Paul Galvin constantly. You mentioned Virginia Piper, and all people thought about was money. That was not her real world, however; inside Virginia, there was a gentle, innocent girl. She played the role of Mrs. Paul V. Galvin, of Mrs. Kenneth Piper, and then of Virginia G. Piper sublimely, magnificently, and to some degree, I'm sure she enjoyed it. But so constantly it was tedious and awful, too; she was always booked for something. And what I found so curious, after a life like that, is that her last years were lived alone, except for her sister Carol, a few close friends, and her immediate family. She was bound by being childless and widowed. And when she couldn't be the perfect image people expected, she withdrew. I truly grew to love Virginia and to this day I miss her. Helen Dusch We were like sisters, and before the nurses came, if she was unwell, I'd stay over many nights so she wouldn't be alone. To me it was a privilege to know her. We always decorated at Christmas and had a Christmas party for all the help. Julio was her handyman, and he and his wife would always be there. People were very, very loyal to Mrs. Piper. It didn't matter what you got Mrs. Piper; she would be thrilled with it, with the thought of the gift. The last two years of Mrs. Piper's life were the hardest. I would get to her house around seven in the morning and make her breakfast, always oatmeal or a blender drink. I would bring clothes from Nordstrom for her to try on. Sister Ann Ida would fly out from Chicago twice a year to visit, Father Frank came on Sundays, and other nuns used to come and visit, all very, very nice. The most important thing I can say about Mrs. Piper is that I put her in the same category as my mother. I don't think I have ever met anyone who had such dignity. Mrs. Piper was elegant. She was a loving, caring woman. Just marvelous. |
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